Self-Isolation Day 5, 6 & 7: Musical Aid

I do believe great admiration for music is genetically leaked into my blood, I can’t imagine my life without music, and not being able to hear the gift of song in various ways. I am quite lucky to be musically cultured and I have my mother to thank for that. She sang in our church choir while growing up, as did my sister and I. My father played guitar, and my sister and I took up piano for a bit. A family event of ours is not complete without some booty shaking music. Afterall, I am a proud Maritimer, and we are known for our kitchen parties, which seem to always involve some singing, or dancing, foot tapping, a fiddle player or perhaps, a Newfoundland ugly stick. My passion for music goes beyond that though, and as I mentioned, my mother is the one to thank for that. I’ve met people who have said they could care less about music, and others who do not see the value in an excellent film score or the effect of music in dramatic theatre. I can’t imagine; so much of life is connected to music from first moments, to the film industry, to personal events, like weddings and funerals. Certain songs can make you feel happy and then rough all over again, it is incredible. Songs can empower, and instill confidence in a person. Songs can provide a sense of mental comfort and peace of mind…and that’s why today, I write to you about musical aid for COVID-19. Keep your bluetooth speakers charged people, and if your ears aren’t tuned in elsewhere, keep that playlist going! It’s hard being isolated for these long periods, but people have proven to be keeping busy through cleaning, crafting, and taking up new skills. And the best company to do all that with is music! Here’s some of my suggestions for your musical aid and why I love them, add them to your playlist, and hit play!

 

This is America – Childish Gambino – This first suggestion of mine actually comes from appreciation for the music video and social concept of the song, so in order to understand this, you’ll have to watch the music video first. Once you watch it, you’ll get it. I also adore Donald Glover’s abs and dance moves in this video, always a bonus, right?

Your Song – Elton John – This favourite of mine is quite magical in the Moulin Rouge version by Ewan McGregor, and I often listen to that version. And when I break out in song singing this, it’s most often to the Moulin Rouge version. That said, we must give solid credit to Sir Elton John for his original version, composing this song himself and bringing forth the magic!

All of Me – John Legend – This song is so beautifully written, the lyrics are on point! Lines such as, “What’s going on in that beautiful mind? I’m on your magical mystery ride’ and ‘You’re my end and my beginning, even when I lose, I’m winning.’ make this song! I really do admire John Legend as a musical artist, he’s very talented, and proved that with this song, even though he didn’t have to! This song was the first dance wedding song of my sister and her husband. Their interethnic wedding joined together two people from two different backgrounds, and they had the song half in English, and half in Portuguese, which made it even more heart melting – simply gorgeous!

Bad Liar – Imagine Dragons – This is probably my favourite Imagine Dragons song, I love the line that says, ‘It’s been a loveless year, I’m a man of three fears, integrity, faith and crocodile tears.’ I have a greater knowledge and respect for the lead singer of Imagine Dragons, I learned quite a bit about him on CNN’s United Shades of America with W. Kamau Bell. Dan Reynolds is a devout mormon, and has suffered from an autoimmune disease since his youth. He is an excellent advocate for children and youth of the LGBTQ2+ community, specifically those that are mormon. He has achieved incredible shelter and outreach work for mormon youth of the LGBTQ2+ community, and speaks of the importance of outreach in maintaining the mental health of these youth. In his segment with United Shades of America, he talks about the division between the mormon church and LGBTQ2+ community, and gives some very interesting perspectives on this topic. Sadly (I do believe) due to the pandemic, CNN has been taken over by everything COVID-19, and I was unable to find an airing of United Shades of America for at least a week. W. Kamau Bell is a well educated, funny American man of colour and his show, United Shades of America is worth a watch for anyone. You can find it on youtube, and search his episodes for a topic that really interests you!

Don’t Stop Me Now – Queen  – It’s just a fun song, fun to sing to and dance to, so put it on your list. I’d also love to mention the Queen film, Bohemian Rhapsody is ten stars out of five, and worth a viewing for sure! – I learned SO many things about this band and Freddie Mercury that I never knew!

Cry to Me – Solomon Burke – Full of rhythm, love it!

Truth Hurts – Lizzo – I enjoy many Lizzo songs, I find them catchy, sassy and fierce- and I like that! Lizzo’s reputation for being full of sass and confidence shines through her songs, and then I guess her love for little clothing shines through her videos, lots of booty shaking!

My Heart Will Go On – Celine Dion – Oh my goodness, Jack and Rose! I can’t believe I haven’t watched them during this pandemic yet! Dirty Dancing, Grease, Footloose and Titanic are all masterpieces of their time and still are today. And often people will gravitate towards one, even though they like them all; one will be their absolute heart throb film. For my sister, it’s Dirty Dancing, and for me, it’s Titanic. So, hearing this song, man it’s powerful, and I can picture every scene of the film. 

Everybody (Backstreet’s Back)  – Backstreet Boys – I had to throw some 90’s hits in there, really a bit of this and Spice Girls should be on the list. You never know til you try, turn it on, and rock your body, alright!

If I Ain’t Got You – Alicia Keys – No good music list would be complete without the beautiful Alicia Keys. Now listen, people go on and on about Beyonce, and she’s queen bee, and she’s this and that. Let me be clear, she has nothing on Alicia. Alicia is beautiful inside and out, and does not have the need to flaunt her body to portray her talent. She’s a natural vocalist and musician, her piano skills are out of this world! She’s soulful, and unique, she has it all! Personally I think young girls aspiring to be like Beyonce should be aspiring to be like Alicia keys instead, she’s the girl on fire!

Tomorrow – Chris Young – This man’s voice, man. Him and Brett Young have remarkable deep voices, and voices that are so rustic and unique to the modern country world, they are simply good at what they do. Also, take note, despite their last name being the same and their equally as good incredible talent, these men have no relation whatsoever. As for Brett Young, Mercy would be one of my most favourites by him. I’d recommend getting to know both of these guys, and watch out, their voices may make your loins ache!

Jessie’s Girl – Rick Springfield – One of my all time favourites, and then when Glee did their performance of Jessie’s girl, it made me love it even more. Finn’s performance was not stellar but it was fun because it was Glee and because it was Finn, you know? It’s sad now thinking back on that, as he, Canadian actor Corey Monteith has passed, and he left the world far too young.

Can’t Stop The Feeling – Justin Timberlake – This is such a fun, positive song; I have a fond memory of this song when my cousins all got together and choreographed a dance to this song for my aunt and uncle’s anniversary party, it was awesome! And don’t we all just love J.T? If you’re not a J.T fan don’t worry Ellen Degeneres will make up for it, I love the friendship between the two of them. I’d also like to mention this song is from the Dreamworks film Trolls, which is super cute, and worth seeing while you are in isolation/quarantine. 

 

 

 

Self-Isolation Day 5, 6 & 7: Exercising Faith, Part 2

Day after day, an empty bus drives past my house; of course this bus contains one person, that of whom is the driver. On the odd occasion, there is one other person on this bus. It’s strange. 

Our schools are dark and empty, hallways eerie and barren, there are not even any children scattered about the playgrounds. It’s like a scene out of The Walking Dead. 

Police and Military are disciplining and arresting people not abiding by public distancing rules; some cities and countries are exercising precaution and issuing fines, while others are physically beating the civilians. 

If you take a good hard look at the world right now, it’s both mind-blowingly sad, and bizarre what it has come to. And because of this, there will be numerous people that will just give up. They say with their words and actions:

Let’s give up on hope.

Let’s give up on faith. 

Let’s stop trying.

I give up. 

They give up on themselves, they lose motivation to fight the battles through this time, they stop caring, and become apathetic, and problematic to disease control, rule following and social distancing. 

One of my favourite holiday films, The Santa Clause, quotes that seeing is not believing, that in fact, believing is seeing.

We can’t give up, we can not lose this fight. We can’t lose faith, we must believe that it’s going to get better, it will get better and we will be there to see that. We must surround ourselves with positive affirmations such as these, because nobody said giving up was an option. 

Canada, the true north, strong and free, you better remember that – we  don’t give up, we are the true north, strong and free. We must exercise faith, because with faith will come that strength and sense of freedom in our minds, easing much of this anxiety and uncertainty most of us are facing. We live in the north, we are the north, but we must demonstrate that we are the ‘strong and free’ as well. 

And it won’t be easy, don’t get me wrong, I understand that not only is it a boring and depressing time, it’s scary as well, and you never know who are the good and the bad people are, and who is sincerely helping and who is out to get others.  It’s sad that we’ve come to a time in the world where this has happened and safety, persecution and harassment are among many of the hurdles we face. These are hurdles that we may fear, but keep in mind exercising faith can control that fear. 

A family member of mine discovered that his parents had been using tissues as toilet paper for weeks, and apparently they didn’t know anything about the shortage. Neither of the parents pay much attention to social media and I am not sure how closely they watch the news, but either way, English is not their first language. They knew to stay at home and self isolate, but sadly they did not realize quite the extent of supply shortages. So when their son discovered this, he called an Ontario Wal-Mart to ensure they had some, and explained he’d be right along to pick it up for his senior citizen parents. They set it aside and let me be clear saying there were none on the shelves. He went into the store, paid, and carried out this large pack of toilet paper. He said at least two people asked him where he got it from, he felt the need to run back to his vehicle, and he was rather frightened for his life. I know and love this person, so to hear this story of fear being instilled in him from the threat of these times, it’s so dis-heartening and sad to me. 

But, we have to believe (even without seeing) that moments like this will diminish, and things will improve for each individual. Small business owners have to keep the faith knowing that this too will pass, and I pray their community gravitates towards them when this is all said and done, so that way, they can continue to service their local communities. There will be a post to come addressing the issues facing small, local business, stay tuned!

In the meantime, don’t forget to set your goals, and remain motivated, and positive. Exercising faith during this pandemic can look very different for one person to the next; how a person exercises faith will be dependant on their personal beliefs, values and views. Nonetheless, however you do it, just do it. Some examples of how people will exercise faith within their life are:

Connecting close and spiritually with the outdoors and nature

Regularly scheduled prayers

Bible studies through video chat

Listening to uplifting hymns

Being a devoted servant and helping those in need during this pandemic

Checking in on your church family and the elders in your family and community

Sending positive, uplifting messages to people through social media, email and snail mail

So, Canada (and everyone), remember to do these sort of things, stay motivated, positive and put faith into action, for we are the true north, strong and free!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Self Isolation Day 3 & 4: Exercising Faith, Part 1

Monday, when I had to go pick up my things from my office, I recall having a good ten minute chat with another person that works within the school. He’s an older individual in a different line of work, but we found such comfort to just talk to someone about everything that is happening in the world, and how it is affecting our family and our community. I suppose it also helped that he and I have a pre-existing rapport. But one thing that really stuck out is when he exclaimed that in all his years, he has never seen anything like this, or seen this happen. Now, whether his remark was referring to the schools shutting down, or the global pandemic itself, it spoke volumes. This is a very critical time for the world, the whole world, and that is insane! 

And for most people, even though this pandemic may present itself as new, it is not the first trial, tribulation or struggle they’ve walked through. And really it should be treated just like another one: a trial, and struggle that we’ll get through. Whether it be through faith in action, positivity or perseverance, we will get through this together. Together is a key word there because our strength will be stronger in numbers, so we have to join together, support one another and be sensitive to each other. Be grateful for the family or friends you are in isolation with, and if you are in isolation or quarantine on your own, be grateful for this community- and lean on it! We are so lucky to have an online community from videos, to bloggers, to facetime, you name it – it has allowed people have a sense of family and community while in isolation, and I hope it continues to! But don’t give up, stay positive, and know that it will get better. 

I like to acknowledge all my brothers and sisters that serve God, so here are some encouraging messages, from a multi-faith persepctive, inclusivity is important! 

 

“For many afflictions, silence is the best remedy.” Talmud, Megillah, 18a

 

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. ” – Holy Bible (NIV) Deuteronomy 31:6

 

“And never give up hope of Allah’s soothing mercy, truly no one despairs of Allah’s soothing mercy, except those who have no faith” – Holy Quran 12:87

 

If you are person of faith, right now is the best time to challenge it and exercise it, and if you are not a person of faith, maybe it’s about you gain some personal faith to help you through this difficult time. There are some things here and there that can assist us in getting through this pandemic, and one of those things is exercising faith and knowing it’s got to get better. Please watch this video, ‘Better’ ; whether or not you are a religious person, this video is full of electric positivity around the world, and we could all use a bit of that right now!

 

 

Self-Isolation Day 2: Appreciating Those Oh So Good TV Moments

Coronation Street: The moment when Roy Cropper stands up and defends his niece…

This moment was very heartfelt, and stirred up old emotions of a young Roy Cropper who had been bullied. The lack of acceptance for his niece dug even deeper as Roy’s late wife Hayley was trans-gender, and was often judged and poorly treatment for being so. There was a clear message about prejudice in that scene, and I love that Brian sided with Roy as a friend, opting out of the bat society.

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Self-Isolation Day 1: Goal Setting for Isolation

I revert back to day one of self-isolating, because I went out somewhere, due to work. Yesterday, I received notification that I will need to go to my school I work at, and collect all things from my office that I will require to work from home with. So, I covered everything, arms, hair and all, and drove to my usual place of work. As I drove in the parking lot, I saw staff in the parking lot with coffee cups in their hands, spaced out a good six or eight feet from one another having conversations. I unlocked the side/back door and went in through there, and attempted to get in and out.

As I walked in, flicked on the lights in the classroom, I saw all the St. Patrick’s Day artwork, and pictures of women for Women’s History month. The white board had ‘Have a Happy St. Patrick’s Day’ written across it. The toys, games and books were sitting quietly on the shelf, untouched. As I made my way to my office, I did stop and look around the room with a heavy sigh. This is a sad situation that we have all come to face, and it became even more sadder as I took an extra large Marshall’s bag and put everything I possibly could in it. I looked at some things and placed them in the bag, questioning so, but decided to pack it assuming I wouldn’t be back for not just weeks, but months at this point.

It is important people are taking this all seriously, and sadly there are many not taking the statistics and facts right in their own country or community seriously. It is unfortunate we have individuals that are hardheaded and going to be the cause of further infection and/or spreading the virus to at-risk individuals. I know many have not accepted this crisis our world is in, they may be in denial that it is happening. But this is happening all around the world and it is a sad, sad thing!

One thing I will say, if you can stay your butt home, please do so, refrain from leaving your home and yard; most places as it is have parks shut down, so just relax, work and play in your backyard and within your home. Now that I am geared up to work from home, this is most certainly what I am going to be doing! This is a challenge, and I get that, but it has been encouraging seeing numerous people take up new crafts and hobbies to curb the sadness of this situation (and isolation). I think exploring new horizons and learning new skills at home is a brilliant way to keep the mind sharp and also healthy while in isolation. Many people already have, or eventually will struggle with self-isolating even if it’s with other people in their home, and this can become mentally straining, and add to the anxiety that most already have from navigating through ‘everything COVID-19’.

Goal setting is a great way to not only motivate yourself but ensure you are keeping yourself mentally stimulated while in isolation as you can track your goals. Being isolated, and many having anxiety already due to the whole situation, I’d be very careful not too make your goals too extravagant. You want your goals to be routine but reachable. Your tasking for working toward your goals could be a part of a daily routine or schedule; many individuals, whether child or adult have become quite accustomed to a daily schedule while in isolation, which can be a really great resource!

Some suggestions of how to figure out some goals are to look at your goals from a body, mind, spirit, soul kind of perspective, but on a greater scale. You can ask yourself things like, what can you do for your body in self isolation? Perhaps there’s a yoga routine you can strive to stick to, or televised fitness program you’ve always wanted to try. Perhaps you make it a goal to give up or take in less junk food while in isolation. You can ask yourself if there is a new skill you want to learn, or perhaps an existing skill you’d like to improve on. You may choose to feed your mind by reading and/or studying, and you could set a time of the day or desired amount of time you want to dedicate to that. You may want to reflect on your personal, spiritual or religious beliefs, and give thanks for your safety during this time. Depending on your beliefs, you may choose to make it a goal to pray more daily, or perhaps have a special Sunday devotion, since most churches are closed at the moment. You could make it a fun goal to try a new recipe each week with what you already have on hand, or perhaps write a new song daily based on your situation.

I think that should explain it, how to set goals that feed into benefitting your body in various ways and your mind and all it’s mental well-being. And it should have been clear also how to set goals to lift your spirit, and feed your soul with ‘making’ and doing the hobbies and activities you love most.

You could draw out on a piece of paper:

BODY:

MIND:

SPIRIT:

SOUL:

Except on your paper, space them out more, and write in a goal for each, and remember, be kind to yourself and make it obtainable.

I am hoping this will send some positive vibes and help some people remain motivated and in good spirits while in self-isolation, for we all need a little bit of extra love these days. We are seeing sad times in our world, and I know it’s difficult but try so hard not to dwell on the sad and negative, and set these goals to keep you going!

Set them, go get them, and achieve them!

Self -Isolation Day 1-3: Reflection

This is day three of me self-isolating in my home, by choice, by rights and for the protection of myself, those around me and the general public. With the right attitude, it is not so bad, but then again, I’m only on day three, and I intend to stay in as long as possible, with the odd exception of a short walk outside or venture out to my backyard deck. As long as I’m being paid to work from home, I will be staying inside my home. 

I am quite fortunate as my home consists of many delightful distractions (books, old VHS tapes, crafts, you name it!) from the buzz and constant reminder that our world is in a global crisis. If you switch on your social media, televison or radio, it is at the forefront of the broadcast, and you can’t seem to escape it right now. This has caused much anxiety for many, myself included. People wonder how long they will have the privilege to work from home, how many more cases will come to their region, if an at-risk family member of theirs will catch it – the constant worry is in many of us of how we will cope and get through this pandemic. While the media can cause this sense of fear, it can also provide valuable, truthful facts and information that many of us could benefit from, so a balance of how much we tune in is important.

Netflix has become a great resource to escape the COVID-19 notifications, and just watch some good ole’ TV, or a favourite film. PVRs have also been a gem during this time of isolation, so that one can just go ahead and flick on their favourite programming, skip the commericals and seeing Corona updates. I had been tuning into some of these Corona updates via my local network, and I heard something that stills kind of rubs me the wrong way. A mayor, senator or some very importantly appointed politician that I can’t seem to remember at the moment stood on international broadcasting with a rather ‘asshole’ comment. He stated about the chaos and catastrophe that has hindered the place he governs, and how something needs to be done, to prevent or slow down the amount of cases and deaths. In the same breath, he states something like, ‘Good people have died….some rather great individuals have passed due to this.’ The news anchor repeated what he had said about how this has taken the life of ‘good’ people in this world but I think it was more out of shock then out of agreeance. There have been numerous deaths due to COVID-19, and the fact that a person might have been or not been a ‘good’ person is beside the point. And who is he to mix his personal morals and judgement of that into his political stance on the measures being taken during the COVID-19 pandemic??? It’s quite infuriating that he follows the mindset of many in society that will mourn the loss of a famous actor who hasn’t passed but just been diagnosed with Corona significantly over an unknown child that of whom has passed from COVID-19. Let’s be real, we live in a selfish world, and this whole quarantine, isolation and lockdown business just might bring out some selflessness within our selfish world. I’ve already seen little bits of it for sure; trending on social media, many local businesses are donating food to Souls Harbour Rescue Mission, an incredible organization that aids those affected by poverty, addiction, etc. On both my local news broadcast as well as facebook, I saw ‘facetime’ through windows for the elderly in assisted living that can not go out. Seeing their loved ones peer through the window with smiles, and chat on the phone with them was dead sweet. As the pandemic unfortunately continues to cause havoc on our planet, let’s cherish these sweet moments, and be kind to one another.

Can we all just take a Corrie moment and appreciate Roy and Nina’s bat watching together – talk about a sweet moment!

Crumpling The Cable Bill

Month by month, the major leading cable companies increase their prices, promo and additional fees. I would say majority of people with a cable setup have a bundle with internet or phone service, or both. However, with landlines phasing out, and a larger variety of home internet providers and options – many are choosing to cut their cable services. This is with no surprise, but as more people leave these businesses, they seem to be putting their rates up for the customers that are staying, and how is that fair? If you have a quality cable provider, you can do things at your leisure like pause Hockey Night in Canada, without having to worry about missing any game play. You can record the latest episode of Seeking Sister Wife and watch it before bed. You can access digital or satellite music stations, and unique children’s and fitness apps. These are all excellent features of cable, and there’s more, but it has become a turn off to many as the cable costs continue to rise. If you are one of those people on the fence of deciding whether or not to cancel your service, it would be good to explore the alternative options you have.

There are numerous ways to illegally stream movies, and your favourite television programming, and these sometimes work very well, but only for a short time. Illegal streaming is great as a solution when you have no other source, however sometimes streams can be spotty, or freeze, or may not even contain the entire program. These are the risks you take with illegal downloads and streaming, as quality may not always be there.

First thing you’ll want to invest in is an HD antenna or two – these can be found from your local Wal-mart, electronics store or Amazon. They range from a modest $25 to hundreds, but honestly they all seem to work the same, with the same goal in mind: to access your local channels, with a clear, digital picture. That said, I wouldn’t spent a fortune on one of these things if I were you. You will only be able to get 2-6 channels probably but keep in mind it is better than nothing and view this as your “essentials” solution. “Essentials” meaning you’ll be able to access the local news, programming and weather – and this is especially good for someone that prefers to keep up to date with current events.

Next, if you have a tablet, or laptop – figure out how you can tap into the convenience of various network’s on-demand and online streaming. CTV and ABC are two networks that offer this, and I’m sure many others do as well. So this means, give it a day or two and you can view the latest episode of This is Us online!

The next thing is… Netflix. Many people hate on Netflix, and I wish they wouldn’t! To be honest, Netflix is clear and concise to use, offers a variety of languages and impaired hearing programming, and has become compatible with just about any smart device. While I will agree there is a huge difference between U.K, Canadian and American Netflix, I certainly don’t believe this is a reason to bash Netflix. Netflix offers both TV series and movies, for young children, youth and adults. Netflix also has its own original programming, you can browse through these movies and series, claimed as Netflix Originals. Netflix originals have been edgy, attractive and entertaining ever since their beginning of time, and the Netflix original Birdbox not only starred the stunning Sandra Bullock, but also became a viral social media conversation, and went on to win 2 awards, and numerous nominations. Stay tuned for my piece on Netflix recommendations, coming soon!

Lastly, maybe it would be a good time to go back in time, or get a little old-fashioned. Do your children even know what a VCR is? Perhaps, find one and introduce them to it; a great place to find VCR and VHS tapes is your local thrift shop. Utilize the box sets of TV shows you have, perhaps you are one of those people that have all the DVD sets of Little House on the Prairie, or The Waltons sitting around, well dig them out, and get watching them. If you are canceling your cable services, there is no reason why you can’t utilize all those dusty VHS and DVD tapes you have sitting around. You never know, it could be more fun than you imagine or bring back fond memories!

If you are having problems justifying or validating your decision to cut your cable, look at your savings if you were to do it. Let’s say you save even a hundred dollars – a hundred dollars could be a husband and wife’s date night, or a hundred dollars could be stashed away, and quickly add up for your dream vacation. You never know, eh?

A Corrie Discussion

It’s clear there are numerous topics within the media and news we can chat about, and while that is intriguing, let’s not. For all my Corrie fans out there, let’s talk about some of the latest happenings of (the non-U.K airings of) our favourite street!

Roy and Carla Drama

We all know that Roy Cropper and Carla have a very close, special relationship, especially thereafter the passing of his late wife, Hayley. That said, when Carla discovered Roy was technically the cause of the fire through the CCTV, it would only be natural she try to protect him. How do you feel about Carla’s decision to withhold the information from Roy? And are you shocked Peter came around to believing this scenario? Roy was sleep walking at the time when he went to go rest by the boat, and unaware of his surroundings. As he went to go leave, he knocked over the lantern that those unruly teenagers did not ensure was out. They left, and the lantern still had a bit of life, and Simon Barlow remained inside the lower deck of the boat. When Roy got up to wander back home, he knocked it over, thus creating a spark and flame, and leading to the boat being encased in fire, with Simon in it. Simon was unaware and listening to music via ear buds, and Roy was unaware as he was sleep walking and has no recollection of this. Peter Barlow, the owner of this boat and father of Simon, has been seeing Abby, after she is now out of prison, both she and Sally are no longer locked up. Ironically, the boat was a gift from his ex, Carla, that of whom is still hung up on him. Many were leaning towards blaming Carla for the fire due to her evident jealously as Abby and Peter were getting along well. They were well until their recent disagreements and rows, when Peter has insinuated/stated Abby meant nothing to him. Then shortly after, the fire happened, and Abby was blamed, many assuming she was behind it.

What if this or that happened?

Do we think Carla’s decision to erase the CCTV was done out of a stress response like she says? Or, do we think it was to pin the fire as an arson, with Abby to blame? Or did she do it solely to protect Roy? While I understand the motive to protect Roy, I do think it was a bit pig-headed to delete the only true evidence, as there were no by-standers and witnesses. Peter Barlow asked her if she would have done the same, had Simon not survived. What do we think? I’d like to think the whole situation would have been handled differently had Simon Barlow died. However, it may have not been, and she may have gone to further extremes to protect Roy, since she cares so much about him. If the fire had been worse, and destroyed Underworld, how do you think this would have played out? Underworld is in immediate need of a new roof, however the factory itself was not destroyed by the fire, neither was The Cabin – and I had a moment where I thought these both might be destroyed. 

Roy’s Guilt

Roy’s recent loss of his mother, and having to handle her affairs and sort her personal belongings has taken a toll on him, as it would anyone. This has prevented him from sleeping well, and it may have possibly induced sleep walking, in addition to the insomnia. I think the guilt that Roy feels, and feels the need to tell others and be reprehended for his actions – I think it stems from embarrassment. I do believe deep down he is concerned about his sleeping troubles even though he won’t seek help. Do you think Roy should seek help? If so, should Toyah be the one to assist him? I’m slightly concerned that Roy may be loosing his marbles! Anyone else think so? His forgetfulness and confusion may not all be from a lack of rest and sleep, it may be something much greater. 

There’s something about Mary!

We all know that Mary Cole from the flower shop is a rather eccentric lady! Some of you probably could not put up with Mary on a daily basis, it sure would test me, but I think I could! She’s very sweet and full of personality and missing her grandson at the moment; helping out with Ruby has been a way to not only distract her, but also serve a purpose with her maternal skills. She has been cleaning the home of Tyrone and Ruby, and preparing them delicious meals, picking up Ruby from school – carrying out all these duties that she once enjoyed doing so for George. Was it wrong of Tyrone to jump to conclusions that Mary was attracted to him, and that’s why she was doing all these things? It is no surprise that Tyrone’s mind would go there, like many men – Tyrone seems to think this of many people, and has acted on it many times, sleeping with many. Don’t get me wrong, Tyrone is a nice, hard working, fine-looking chap – but his words to Mary were:

“I like you…but just as a friend”

Perhaps Tyrone is a bit too full of himself, thinking every other woman would be fancying him. Mary’s words to him were:

“You arrogant ape! I was merely carrying out my great duties of home and childcare.”

Well, I think Mary said it best.

Bethany Platt Comforting Amy

I don’t have too much to say about this except: Does anyone else find it odd that Bethany Platt would be offering to go to the abortion clinic or comfort Amy Barlow at this time? Does anyone not remember many moons ago when Sarah-Lou was in Amy’s position? She didn’t abort Bethany, and since her and Bethany have certainly had their ups and downs, but Bethany is here, and remains a part of the Platt family. On a side note, what do we all think of Steve and Tracy’s parenting skills? Amy has really become one of those teenagers that can pull one over on her parents, and manipulate them in almost any direction. It’s a shame, because in real life, there are many teens that are puppet masters on the daily. 

Well, that’s all for now, continue watching Corrie, and please continue to follow my posts, thanks for reading, and give your strong Corrie opinions in the comment section!

Reasons More People Should Believe In Multi-Generational Living

In certain cultures and countries – multi-generational living is a regular practice – compared to North American culture where most families prefer to stand divided. While there are certainly ups and downs to shared living – there are many perks that come along with it. There are blessings in disguise that many are unaware of.

MULTI-GENERATIONAL LIVING BROADENS YOUR PERSPECTIVE

There is a common misconception that if one ventures out and lives on their own, it will make them independent, stronger or teach them things they can’t learn elsewhere. This is what society teaches – that you’re better off on your own. This however, is not always true. Multi-generational living teaches that even through quarrels, we are stronger together. It teaches tolerance and how to have a sense of unity among people who have different opinions, beliefs, habits and practices. And, most importantly, it does teach independence. It teaches the healthy balance of being around people and not, and stirs up a sense of independence that is complimented by a greater support system. Within this support system, there may be an aunt, sister, cousin or grandparent that one feels most comfortable with, and can confide with. Whether it be pregnancy, loss of pregnancy, common interests or illness – there are things in life that will draw certain individuals of this support system together. This is good for mental health, and broadens one’s perspective on relationships, family roles and support systems. 

MULTI-GENERATIONAL LIVING IS A BENEFICIAL LONG-TERM INVESTMENT

If yourself, your family and in-laws decide multi-generational living is right for you – decide together, invest together and do it right with a happy heart and for the right reasons. Consider down-sizing, establish private & common areas, pool money together, have a vision in mind and work hard to keep that vision alive. Consider sustainable options, and designate who will pay what. The initial work and funds to find, build or customize a home may be quite steep – but if you all pool in money together and ‘get handy’, many hands does mean less work. In the end, you will save in many ways and perhaps be able to do other things such as travel more or dine out more often. If more people would consider the concept of this, there would less distant families, impoverishment, and homelessness. Now, I never said its a cure to impoverishment or homelessness, but rather a good preventative measure for those that have family to reach out to. The problem is most wouldn’t.  That mind set needs to change. If a person is dealing day to day with an unexpected pregnancy, illness or job loss or trying to get clean, it should be a societal norm that they can reach out to their aunt, sister or brother (for example). This is because the multi-generational home should be a safe place and melting pot of family, consisting of in-laws, siblings, nephews, etc. It should be a safe place for family that is not limited to parents, grandparents and children.

MULTI-GENERATIONAL LIVING TEACHES THE VALUES OF SHARING AND COMPROMISE

The values of sharing and compromise are very important to the life style of multi-generational living. For example, if you, your siblings and families are investing in a home with four connecting units – you’ll have to negotiate, share and compromise in many areas. Who gets what unit? Should the person with no children get a smaller unit than the rest? Who will your great granny live with? These are just some questions you might have to address in this situation. Other scenarios might have more unique compromises, such as shared washrooms. Who shares with whom? A common living space and kitchen might be something your families want. One person might say they like the idea of a common living space, but they don’t want any pets in it. So, see this would be a compromise: you can have pets, just don’t bring them in the common areas. You might say the same for ‘couple time’, keep the common areas PG/kid friendly and ‘private affairs’ in your private quarters. With all these compromises, there comes a great sense of sharing, that is passed down as an excellent influence on children in the dwelling. It may sound odd to dine at a table of 14 on days that are not holidays. It may seem odd to have a living room three times the size as most, and to share it with so many other people. But these things fall into place and become your own kind of norm. And soon enough, you’ll be looking forward to Friday night movies in the common area, snuggled up with your kids and completely at ease – knowing you’ve done the right thing for them, yourself and every other person in that house.

MULTI-GENERATIONAL LIVING ALLOWS EACH GENERATION TO TEACH EACH-OTHER AND ADD DIVERSITY 

In multi-generational homes, it is common to often have three generations, and if you’re lucky enough, 4 or 5 generations. The way to look at it is, the more generations, the better. This is because with each generation comes life experience, influence and great volumes of diversity. If you are truly blessed to be in the midst of a four generation home with a variety of family members – recognize that this is an ongoing positive influence and teaching opportunity. While you may have veterans, retired doctors or family that came to the country with just a pack on their back, these are valuable attributes but understand the eldest generation in your home is not the only one that can breathe and speak knowledge. Don’t be ignorant with assumption that the oldest generations are the wisest, while the youngest have much to learn. There is an equal need for transfer of knowledge from one generation to the next, whether it be from the eldest to the youngest, or the opposite. The younger generation need to be taught compassion for the older generation and understand they have been shaped and molded as a result of the country and era in which they lived. The older generation need to swallow their pride and show more patience for the generation growing up in a time when technology is growing faster then they are, and hard work is not as ‘hard’ as it use to be. If someone in the household worked her life as nurse through the 1940’s-60’s, it would have been an extremely different experience than someone entering the nursing field now. Not only has the medical technology advanced, the scope of responsibilities have as well. This is not necessarily a good thing or bad thing – but it is an opportunity for a grandmother to discuss with her granddaughter their nursing professions. They can compare procedures and the shifts in roles, and if they truly want to, they can allow it to be a time of seeing into their field – at a different time (period). The opportunity for this insight is one of the many diverse benefits of multiple generations under one roof.

©Leah Finlay, October, 2017 – All rights to Leah Finlay, the blog of thinking out loud, permission required for copying.

How I believe in Woman Liberation

There is nothing better than witnessing women who are working together – and standing by each other for a common purpose. Women today (in 2017) should be liberated in business, marriage, motherhood, medicine and all quarters of our life.  Women should be the fuel for a fire of liberation in all these areas, and cross paths to eliminate division amongst us.

We, as blonde haired, green eyed, nurses, surgeons, teachers and grandmothers need to be building each other up to succeed for all women as a whole. See, as women, we are some of the most wonderous, intelligent and mysterious creatures – that of whom need to build each other up to exemplify and shine our full potential. Many women that have made history have gone un-noticed, climbed hurdles to get where they are, and they’ve had to fight for equality – equality for education, treatment, marital rights, compensation, career progression, etc. These are the exact things that for hundreds of years, we’ve had a backbone of women fighting, attempting to fix a system that places women as weaker, incapable, and poor leaders. This is a working progress, we are still at it. But why do we appreciate the history of women’s rights, and the attempt to be a part of positive change if we can’t appreciate one another? 

Why do women do this? Or say they believe in each other if they hate each other? Why are women jealous and judgemental of each other? Why are women hurting each other in a world that was built up to be better for us?! There is no correct explanation. A woman should not judge another if she wants to stay home with her kids, or chooses not to have children, has a mental illness, is a new Canadian citizen or poorer than her. She should not judge a woman that stays with her cheating husband, gets an abortion, works above her or chooses a different path of faith than her. So, tell me why is it women are so quick to judge her friend based on the pacifier and bottles she gives to her baby. Tell me why she is so quick to trash talk after meeting a couple lesbians or fat girls. Why does she rage with jealousy when meeting her doctor and lawyer friends? Why do they talk down to her? Why do they often exclude her because she has a scarf covering her hair? And why is another woman angry with the woman promoted above her? Why do women do this to eachother?

It doesn’t take a lot to tell another woman how fabulous she is, how beautiful she is or how much you admire her for her strength, perseverance, and success. If we truly want the success of women’s rights and accomplishments heard, continuing to move forward for women world wide – it starts here, and it starts with where you are and the women around you. Divided, we are the female species. United, we are empowered women of the world.

 

©Leah Finlay, October, 2017 – All rights to Leah Finlay, the blog of thinking out loud, permission required for copying.